You are up for a treat today! First in my guest post line-up is Anonymum, a favorite blogger from the colorful world of down under. I first met Mum when she started leaving me comments at my Shoe. She seemed to really enjoy my attempts at poetry, and who can’t help but like a fan? Her blog at the time was called Nanny’s Nook with the tagline that read “I’ve got a blog and I’m not afraid to use it – I’m a Nanny on the edge!” I loved it and would sometimes visit several times a day just to read and giggle at the tagline! I was probably one of those bad people that *shit her to tears* because I was making her numbers skyrocket but not leaving comments to let her know why. Sorry ’bout that Mum.
She has been gracious enough to let me use a favorite post from her site, one she dubs as “family friendly”. It is also very good reading! It was the April 5, 2008 winner of the Post of the Day award from The Rising Blogger. (To this day, she still wants to know who nominated her.) So grab your coffee, sit back, and enjoy.
Why is it many young people of today {now how old does THAT make me sound???} think love is an exclusive emotion only felt by people between 15 and 30?
What makes them think people lose the desire, or indeed, the ability, to love as they age?
Do they think we know nothing of love? Romance? Or {shock horror!!!} <em><strong>making</strong></em> love?
Let me assure, I could, without a doubt, give some damned good lessons on making love. Love does not consist of one long fuck! {not that there’s anything wrong with the odd one of those let me say!!}
Do they seriously believe their parents created a family through virginal births? When will they realise there’s only ever been one immaculate conception, it <em>wasn’t</em> theirs, and that their parents actually “did it”??
The other question I would like to ask is what makes people think love is only a feeling as opposed to actions?
I’m a romantic at heart. I love picnics, candlelit dinners, having Mark buy me flowers because he knows the ones he saw are my favourites. {tulips if you’re thinking of sending any!}
When we got married our “reception” was fish and chips, with white wine, by the lights of the Sydney Harbour Bridge as the QE2 left dock at Circular Quay {a well timed event, not planned btw} We didn’t need a big fancy place, or have the need to spend squillions of dollars on a huge to do as seems to be the norm these days.
I don’t see that as romantic in any way shape or form.
When will people realise love is holding their loved one’s head as they vomit because they’re so exhausted and ill, that they can’t?
It’s a million and one little things you do. The look that can pass without words and still be understood.
The unspoken understanding that sometimes you just shouldn’t watch your favourite show at full volume.
The times you DON’T do something you want to because you know your partner would prefer not to.
True love endures.
It’s strong.
It’s resilient.
It also needs to be nurtured, and caressed, and that takes time. It doesn’t suddenly vanish once you reach a certain age.
True, deep love, can sustain a person through almost any event which may befall you. Death, disease, tragedy, all the things that shake a person to the core. It’s having someone beside you that can soothe, hold and comfort you without the need for words. They’re just “there”. They just “do”. they give you the strength to deal with it without even having to try. They just “are”.
Love is not exclusively for the young, nor is it merely a feeling. It’s actions, words, and the ability to love someone despite their faults. Accepting their imperfections, as they accept yours.
When you love, you should love unconditionally.
And what’s with trying to “change” something you don’t like about the person you love? If they change, does that not make them different to the person you fell in love with?
When will the young realise love doesn’t diminish with time? It becomes stronger, and deeper.
It gets better with age.
Cabin in the Sky 